My Sunshine

Good day everyone!! Thanks for stopping by to check out what is up here. The theme for the rest days of the week will be tagged "#wordporn". What is word porn?? Basically, word porn means words put together in literature form that strikes the erotic part of people.

MY SUNSHINE
The fact that the sun rises in the east,
made me ascertain she was the exact opposite of a beast.
My hands reached out to her,
and my world was built around her.
Such a beauty to behold.
I was never told,
that true love is worth more than gold.
Yea! I was perfectly right,
and today my life is extra bright.
She brought sunshine after the stormy days,
and blessed my world with her distinguished rays.
Even when I looked teary,
and my days were dreary.
She was never weary.
She dried my tears with her bare hands
and made my faith gallantly stand.
She changed my entire plan,
It made me a better man.
She's everything that defines 'fine'
So I call her "my sunshine".
-Anne
XO

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CELEBRATING OTHERS.

Hello everyone! I hope the week started off well for everyone?! Today's post will be quite short. I don't want you all to read a long epistle today😉. Do you know how important it is to celebrate others?? Let's find out.

We all love to be celebrated. Young, old, children, adult, teachers, doctors and different people from all walks of life. It's a really great feeling to be celebrated. While waiting to be celebrated or being celebrated, do we celebrate others?? Celebrating others is a yardstick to the accomplishment of your own success. It motivates you and makes you feel good. When you celebrate the success of others don't compare yourself with them, it steals your joy. Instead, learn from their success story and work hard to achieve yours.
"We discover greatness within once we learn to cultivate and celebrate it in others. "- Brendon Burchard.
"When others are up among the stars, celebrate with them. We were all sent here to shine and we shine brighter when we all work together."
Discover greatness today! Celebrate others!

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ATTENTION SEEKERS.

Hello everyone. Happy new week! The first quarter of the the year is coming to an end soon and it's so much to be grateful for. I believe all things are already working for our good.😀😊😀. I hope Arsenal fans are not too pissed off that they forget to read what I have here today. Did I just type that??!!?? Pardon me.
Last week, someone suggested I write about "attention seekers" and I'll be doing just that today.  How desperate are we for attention?? What miles would we travel to get the attention we think we deserve?
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Sandra and Temi planned to attend their school's end of the session dinner party. They had to shop for their shoes, gowns, accessories, bags and wigs. Temi was concerned about the prices of the things they planned to get. "Instead of worrying about the prices of things in the market, why don't we draft a budget?" Sandra suggested.
"Yes!!! Nice idea... High five!" Temi screamed in affirmation as she raised her hands up to meet that of Sandra while twisting her waist in excitement.
They were both in their second year in the tertiary institution and wanted to get the attention of their peers through their expensive appearance. They drafted their budget after so much argument and considerations.
"Wow!! Sandra, a hundred thousand naira!" Temi exclaimed when she saw the list.
"Babe... We have to hustle this money out oo" Sandra cuts in.
"Abi!! Make we no go fall hand. " Temi replied in Nigerian pidgin.
They both came from an average middle class Nigerian family and their individual monthly allowance wasn't up to a quarter of the dinner party budget they had drafted. They brainstormed on how they could raise the money. After a lot of suggestions, an agreement was reached between them." One night stand.... No strings attached". It was Sandra's idea and they had to do it in order to get people notice them through their expensive dressing and appearance at the dinner party.

Humans are social individuals and have been created to interact with others directly or indirectly in the environment they find themselves. We often like to be played with, talked to, listened to and acknowledged. We have a certain standard some people look out for from the way we interact or relate with others. While we consciously or unconsciously gain people's attention, some of us are willing to go extra miles beyond our comfort zone just to get attention. These people are referred to as 'Attention seekers'.
     Attention seekers put up a behaviour, attitude, facial expression etc. to be the centre of attention. They'll dress, throw parties, smile, seduce and even shop for attention. Right or wrong.... Just name it! All for attention. They keep up with this line "I must steal the show". Sometimes attention seeking becomes a survival threat for them. There's so much energy they unleash to get the attention they think they deserve. Most attention seekers are desperate. They can go as far as manipulating and feasting on the vulnerability of others.
    Attention seeking only robs you of the benefit of respect. Paying attention to oneself is better than desperately seeking attention from others. You can get attention from your peers or a group of people by having good qualities and being productive. This will go a long way to boost confidence. "Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud." Desperately seeking attention makes you insecured. "Seek respect not attention!".
Have a great week ahead.
Anne.
XO

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RESEARCH FARM.

My path paved way into the research farm,
and dust concealed part of my cold feet.
I sighted the caterpillars;
that shriveled on bare leaves.
As though, waiting for the morning sunshine.
Not what I've chosen,
but what chose me.
Green white green.... Nigeria!
The green path I'm threading on.
A questionable great nation,
Raining fire and brimstone on poor masses;
Yet, hiding under the sarcasm of 'recession'.
Leaving all but the elites in raw terror.
From honour to horror,
I wished I could wake up a juror,
but life showed me the green card.
Tilling the soil is a way out of this mess,
and so learning is vital.
Unfortunately ending up with a mesmerism,
of superiors over subordinates.
Taking us back to hoes and cutlasses.
Yet, we chant civilization
with no mechanization.
Denigrating whims and caprices,
abandoning us in a subconscious fuss.
I wish the research farm was a nirvana,
to tell me the future is here!
- Anne
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I wrote this an evening sometime ago. I had just got back from the farm feeling really stressed when I decided to pen down the way I felt. It was a horrible feeling at first. Afterwards, I felt better. I think Agricultural students understand this better. The importance of mechanization in our everyday life cannot be over-emphasized.

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KNOW YOUR CIRCLE!

You gave them your all,
and went extra miles to make them stand tall.
You put a smile on their faces,
and vowed to be with them through all the phases.
When they woke up at the wrong side,
You embraced them and let their worries slide.
You were soft and tender,
Got their back; a defender.
You called them your best friends,
not knowing it would come to a dead end.
Thoughts of them being faithful,
only to realize you were faith-fooled.
Letting you wonder what went wrong,
just like the first night you got drunk.
They rowed with you on your ferryboat,
and planned for you never to stay afloat.
You thought you knew your circle,
Such deceit as blue is the new purple.
Out of pain, you screamed;
All connections, you trimmed.
A lesson with a theme;
Pay attention and know your circle!
-Anne.

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THE THIN LINE BETWEEN PRETENCE AND BEING RESERVED

Hello everyone! What do you think about pretence and being reserved? One day, someone walked up to me and asked "Are you really reserved or do you just pretend?"
Today, I'll share my view on the thin line between pretence and being reserved.

"Hey dear! You look very gentle." Martins gave his remark.

"Thank you! " Claire responded smiling. 

 They both exchanged pleasantries that fateful day before heading towards the lecture hall. Claire and Martins were classmates but didn't really interact with each other. Claire was more of a quiet person in class and Martins was really outspoken and jovial. 

     Three weeks later, they met at a resort centre. Claire was comfortable with Martins. He could never have imagined she was interested in sports, enjoyed rap music and some secular music. He found out about her love for dancing, her ability to keep long conversations going as opposed to her attitude in class. He wondered why almost everyone labeled her a pretender when she is actually a reserved person. They got along afterwards and still remained good friends after school.  

     When a person pretends, he/she acts with the intention to deceive but when a person is reserved; he/she acts calmly and isn't quick to voice out. Being reserved is sometimes misconstrued by others as pretence. 

    Often times, we really don't know someone until we've met them. Sometimes, we have the wrong stereotype about people. We judge a person by appearance as opposed to how the person really is. Appearance can be quite deceptive. We make comments about people based on what we think they are and not what they are. 

    I'm a very calm person, I really don't like talking publicly as well. I like to have my own space. I'm observant and I listen more when I'm with people . It's a different ball game in my comfort zone. I don't have a lot of friends, just a few. I really love my opinion to be heard among my friends, sometimes I'm very playful, I tease people I'm comfortable with and make sarcastic comments. I wouldn't do these publicly. I'm also good at keeping companies. I laugh really hard when people tell me I pretend. Well, I can be shy but I really don't see that as pretence. I'm actually not a loud person. I think it's the same for some of us. We're mistaken for who we aren't just because we are often times reserved.
    I think the thin line between pretence and being reserved is the "intention to deceive". The former entails being what you're not just to deceive others or make others see you as a different person. Get to know people more and find out if they pretend or just love to act on the low side without voicing out or letting people know what goes down with them. There's so much work to do when you pretend. You aren't comfortable with yourself, you don't act your wage, you go extra length to get people's attention, just to mention a few. Come on!! Why stress over pretending to be who you aren't?
"We must distinguish between acting to deceive and being calm to be reserved. "
Anne.
XO

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Unemployment; issues arising!

Hello everyone!! I'm glad you created time today to check out my post. I got some suggestions of articles to put up yesterday and I'll work with that for the next couple of weeks. I think I've got this great feeling while putting up an article and posting each day isn't much of a big deal. Someone suggested interviews as well,  I promise to look into that.

Today, the topic will be basically in the direction of unemployment in Nigeria. Issues I'll write about to the best of my knowledge are:
- The question Nigerian youths pop up ; "Why Nigerian parents lay so much emphasis on University degree certificates?"
- Available jobs in Nigeria.
- The government attitude towards unemployment.
Why Nigerian parents lay much emphasis on getting a University degree over talent or skill? 
This issue always come up when you interact with a lot of individuals especially graduates. Most parents want their children/wards to be educated through primary, secondary and tertiary institutions. The truth is that they believe with that, their children/wards can secure white collar jobs and with time start earning wages/salaries. Sometimes, it turns out good and other times, the other way round. "No job! No salary!" The influx of graduates each year into the labour market is on a high rate and the labour market isn't absorb them. This is as a result of overpopulation. Now, most business-oriented individuals have come out to say entrepreneurship is the way. Therefore, skills development is necessary. I think parents should encourage their children/wards to learn something profitable alongside studying. If a talent is noticed, it should be developed. This way, employment would be drastically reduced.

Available jobs in Nigeria. 
There are different sectors in Nigeria where job opportunities lie. Overpopulation in Nigeria is a problem because the available resources are not enough to satisfy everyone. We are encouraged to create our own opportunities and be an employer of labour instead of struggling for jobs that are not readily available. Money lies in little opportunities people fail to discover.  Discover yourself, discover your own opportunity.

Government attitude towards unemployment. 
Although, the government have done few things to reduce unemployment rate. Alot can still be done like granting loans to entrepreneurs at subsidized rates, creating more opportunities for graduates who are eligible for jobs in different sectors of the economy by retiring the old ones and recruiting young graduates, restructuring NYSC such that it favours entrepreneurship, curb corruption, implementing policies that favours economic growth, just to mention a few.  This will go a long way to reduce unemployment rate.
     If you can write articles, play an instrument, throw a ball, grab a camera, sing, dance, make cream brulees, bake cakes, plan events or do other productive things. Why not try it out today? Get your hands engaged; get yourself productive. You don't know what tomorrow holds.
Yours truly,
Anne.
XO.

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